I’m good in bed? 2 Questions Every Man Should Ask Himself (Instead Of Her!)
How am I in bed? Am I really good? Am I finishing too fast… or am I taking long enough to get the job done? Does she fantasize about me when I’m not around? Or… is she thinking about someone else she’s been with when we’re in bed?
Do any of these questions sound familiar? The truth is that no matter how confident a man may be in other areas of his life, chances are he has at least SOME insecurity about sex. Common sexual insecurities include everything from fearing how you measure up to a previous boyfriend or lover, to wondering if his orgasms are real, to even being curious what he’s thinking about while the two of you are together.
The good news?
If you have any of these persistent fears, phobias, or feelings of NOT having enough, you are certainly not alone. In fact, after writing hundreds of articles on sex for both men and women, I can tell you that sexual insecurity is something that affects BOTH sexes.
The bad news?
It’s also something that none of us, men or women alike, are really good at communicating, even when we’re very close. This means that if you’re a man and you’re not sure how good you are in bed, getting an honest and straight answer from your girl may not be as easy as it sounds.
With that in mind, here are 2 very simple questions you can ask yourself that will not only help you improve your performance between the sheets, but will ALSO make you a more communicative woman when it comes to telling you what she likes, how she likes it. and how much she appreciates your skills in the bag too.
1 – Are you preparing a good “stage” for sex?
Women rate the “setting” or circumstances AROUND sex very highly in terms of erotic importance. Do all women enjoy unplanned spontaneous sex? Of course. BUT, when he believes that you have put time, effort, and erotic imagination into the setting, he will exponentially enjoy the experience even more. This includes everything from wine, candles, location, and more…and regardless of your budget or circumstances, you CAN add a delicious layer of erotic imagination to the experience almost whenever you try. (or enough to make impromptu sessions even more enjoyable!)
2 – Are you focused on foreplay?
Believe it or not, most women simply CANNOT climax with intercourse, simply because most men come too fast! A quick sexual stat: the average woman has a sexual response cycle that is up to 4 times longer than her partner’s. The average man climaxes in 7 minutes or less, from the start of sex to the end. Women need about 15 minutes MINIMUM, on average… to reach orgasm from sexual intercourse. The good news? Foreplay is not only the great erotic enabler, but it is also a much easier way for her to orgasm. And of course, as I’m sure you know… the more often she orgasms, the more likely she is to find you exceptionally sexy and sensational in bed!
