Long Distance Relationship: Tips on Do’s and Don’ts
Throughout our experience working with long distance couples, we have discovered that there are many things we must do and refrain from doing in order to survive the relationship. Below are some of the tips we’ve collected over the years. Although they may seem simple, when it comes to the actual execution, it may require more than your effort and discipline. It is your desire to survive the relationship that has the greatest impact in writing the outcome of your long-distance relationship. Consider some of the following lists and along with your desire, I’m pretty sure you can conquer your long distance relationship with ease and fun.
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1) Establish an effective communication channel
The first thing to do in a long distance relationship is to establish an effective communication channel. Most people will think that the telephone is the most convenient mode of communication, but in addition to telephone services, there are other alternatives that you can use. Instant messaging, email, VOIP phone and regular mail can be very effective if you know how to use them. Each of the communication channels has its own advantages and disadvantages and therefore you should start exploring each of them to improve your communication experience.
2) Plan to meet
There is nothing more important than planning to meet again at a time slot during the period of your long distance relationship. This will help both you and your partner catch up on the things you can’t do while you’re apart. The anticipation of seeing each other again will always give you excitement, hope, and eliminate the feeling of loneliness in your LDR.
3) Develop a hobby that you both can share
By building and maintaining a hobby, both of you will have something to discuss and work on during your long-distance relationship. Finding something to do online can be quite interesting judging by its speed and reach, but never give up the conventional hobby because you don’t need to have the physical presence of your partner to share a hobby.
4) Surprise your partner
From time to time surprise your partner with cards, gifts, letters and flowers outside of their expectation apart from your normal correspondence. Put your imagination to use and your partner will surely love your effort to keep them happy. Sending the unexpected gifts to your partner will always cheer up your long-distance relationship no matter how far apart your partner is.
5) Capture and share that interesting moment
Throughout the period of your LDR, you can always capture some interesting moment by exchanging photos, video clips and audio recordings. This will indirectly keep your partner informed about what has happened in your life despite the physical distance.
not to do
1) Settle for a temporary replacement
One of the mistakes long distance couples often make is settling for a temporary replacement when their partner is not physically close. By allowing a third party into your life, you will not only jeopardize your long-distance relationship, but you will also break the mutual trust and agreement you make. Although it may not be done intentionally, this type of mistake will be very costly to your long distance relationship.
2) Take the relationship lightly
The absence of your partner does not give you license to dictate and manipulate the relationship. You must remember that your partner has their own right to participate in any decision-making towards the well-being of your relationship, regardless of where they are. A long distance relationship is just as important as a normal relationship, and your partner has the right to be treated fairly.
3) Wait and see attitude
Most of the long-distance relationship failures we see are due to the wait-and-see attitude of the couples themselves. This was caused by the insecurity of the couple since they do not believe that the LDR works but at the same time they do not want to end the relationship. Let me tell you this, if you plan to have this kind of attitude, refrain from coming across one in the first place because both you and your partner will suffer in the relationship. In an LDR, both partners must be committed and proactive in taking the relationship to a higher level.
4) suspicion
There is no room for suspicion in a long distance relationship. In order for you to survive your long-distance relationship, you must learn to trust your partner wholeheartedly. A single suspicion will break the bond you have with each other and it is the beginning of the end if you start to suspect your partner at any point in your LDR. Although it is easier said than done, but believe me, if your partner is capable of cheating on you, they will still do it right under your nose. So you don’t need to create such unnecessary stress on your LDR.
5) Succumbing to negative comments about LDR
Long-distance couples are always wrong to believe that LDRs don’t work. The negative impression you have on LDR will eventually haunt you and destroy your relationship if you choose to listen to the negative comment. Therefore, once you have decided to start a long-distance relationship, you must learn to believe that your relationship will work. I knew this because I had successfully conquered my own long-distance relationship because I wasn’t swayed by any of the bad comments I received.
