The Code (Make your boy act cool again)
The most important thing in any relationship is communication. It is very important to communicate your needs and desires to your partner. That said, before you employ the code suggested in this article below, make sure you’ve tried to communicate thoroughly with your partner. If you have chosen to ignore what you have said or haven’t tried hard enough to ratify the situation to your satisfaction, then use the code.
Alpha, Gamma, Zulu, Kappa. These are some of the words that were recited in the movie “Crimson Tide” by the main character Denzel Washington. These particular words spoken in combination were the launch code for a nuclear attack that could have wiped out humanity as it is now known. There is another code that is just as powerful. It can work universally in most situations and has the potential to change your life as you know it now.
This code can be used in many situations. These are just a few examples: He has started to take you for granted. He has become less interested in spending time with you. He is reluctant to commit to you. Let me explore an example a bit more… You know this guy who is so into you; he hangs on your every word. He always wants to spend time with you and is always on time to pick you up. He fills you with affection, kisses and gifts. He tells you how beautiful you are and he drinks and eats you. He tells you that he has plans to marry you. Suddenly this great man seems to disappear and you do not recognize the man who has replaced him. He barely listens when you talk and his idea of a date is sitting on a couch watching ESPN. He hasn’t done anything romantic or nice for you in a long time. He doesn’t even mention becoming more serious or getting married anymore. You still want to be with him, but you’re sick of him and ready to kick him out. Before you close the door on this relationship, use the code.
Which is the code? The code is a powerful tool that encompasses strategies that will help you take back the power in your relationship. The codes make your partner sit up and notice you once again. Read on to find out exactly what the code is.
How do I use the code? Using the code is quite simple; you don’t need to do much at all. In fact, the opposite is true, you need to stop doing many of the things you have been doing. First things first, you have to stop calling him. This tip may sound crazy, but don’t turn off your computer or close the web page. I know that advice can be hard to swallow; I never said that code was going to be easy on you emotionally. You may have to suffer a bit in the process to get the desired result. Most importantly, you’ll have to plan even when you don’t feel like it. When was the last time he called you? Are you the one who is always picking up the phone to connect with him? You have to change that, don’t let your fingers dial their number. Let to the initiate the next phone conversation if you never hear from him again, then believe me when I say he is NOT the one. If he can’t do the common act of calling, how can you expect to have a future with this person? If he doesn’t call you back, it indicates that he doesn’t care/like/love you and that he isn’t interested in having a healthy and successful relationship.
Not only should you not call him, but you should start ending phone conversations first. Have you noticed that he is the one who usually has to leave after only a few minutes of conversation? You have to start turning the tables. The next time you talk on the phone, let him know you have to go. Even if you don’t have anything important to do, go ahead and hang up the phone. It should be a point of concern for you if you can’t find anything to do besides talk to him. It’s time for you to find a hobby. If you can’t think of a hobby, start spending time with yourself. I suggest you read a book, take a bath, exercise, go to school, rent a movie, create a goal for yourself. Not only will you be happy with a hobby or spending time with yourself, but you’ll also be a more interesting person. If you are more interesting, he will be more interested in you. Your new hobby shouldn’t include planning the wedding for the two of you, you should let him know that your time is valuable and that your world doesn’t revolve around it and that you are self-sufficient.
Next step, let me invite you on your next date. You shouldn’t ask him out or go on a date with you. It’s okay if it takes him a while to ask you out on a date. Start making other plans with your friends, coworkers, or family. Hopefully, you haven’t alienated your friends by ignoring them once you landed a man. BUT DO NOT wait for him to ask you out. If he asks you out on a day when you already have plans, DO NOT cancel your plans. He will realize that if he wants to go out with you he will ask you in advance. A booty call does not constitute a date. If he invites you just for that, he is using you. If he asks you out, ask him what his plans are. If he mentions sex, let him know you have other plans. The third part of the code, which may or may not apply to you, concerns the giving of gifts. Please stop giving “gifts just because” if they are just one-sided. A man should not be with you only because of what you can give him or spend on him. I have seen some women trying to buy a man’s love with gifts. If a man doesn’t care about you, like you, or love you, he won’t start just because you spend a lot of money on him. A man should be the one to give you because you are the trap. If you don’t think you’re cheating, contact our self-esteem coach for more information.
In addition to refraining from giving gifts, you can also avoid some “niceness.” If you always go out of your way to take your clothes to the dry cleaners and pick them up on the way home from work,Stop. If you often clean your apartment and fold your clothes when you visit, stop. Do you do his grocery shopping for him? Stop! He needs to prove what he would miss if you weren’t in his life. Since this could very well be the case if he doesn’t start treating you better.
Now that we’ve discussed the things you should stop doing, let’s review the things you should do. beginning making. Time for a mini makeover. Call your hairdresser, get a pedicure and go to the mall and update your look. Make sure to keep your mini makeup a secret from your guy. You want him to be surprised with your new look. Let’s say you would normally talk to him about a change in hairstyle. Now, he realizes that he is no longer aware of your every move. If you were to give yourself a makeover without him knowing, he’ll wonder what else you’re doing without him knowing. He will realize that you are capable of making decisions without his opinion or knowledge of him. This will arouse curiosity. When he asks you to go on his next date, I want you to look absolutely gorgeous. This mini makeover is important because we often have a tendency in relationships to get carried away. We stopped doing the things we did at the beginning of the relationship, like combing our hair or getting dressed for dates. Now is the time to let him appreciate your beauty again. “Show him what you’re working with”, he may have forgotten how desirable and attractive you are. Hopefully, you’ll be able to catch a few people’s attention while you’re with him. This will remind him that you are desirable to other men. He needs to be reminded of this so he can feel a bit threatened. It is good for him to know that another man is willing to take you out of his hands if he is not willing to step forward.
Your guy will start to realize that the dynamic of the relationship has changed. Whose revealing that you are using that code would be a big mistake. If he starts questioning your actions, it’s okay to play innocent. You will probably start to notice changes in it as well. You may start to see the guy you fell in love with earlier start to come back. When he starts doing nice things like he used to, praise him and let him know that this is how you like to be treated. After seeing that he is committed to the change, he can lower the code a bit. It is my recommendation that you continue with some of the techniques. Keep up with your appearance and find time for yourself. Once he starts treating you nice again, you can continue with your niceties. Now it’s okay to call him and ask him to hang out. If you see him coming back to himself, feel free to use the code again.
I have recommended the code many times and have also used it myself. I have never seen it fail. If it fails in your case, don’t feel bad. It just means it’s time to move on. You’ve done your part by talking to him and using the code. If he doesn’t respond after all this, then it’s time for you to find someone new.
