The law of attraction for flirting
You don’t need any “Pick-Up-Lines” to meet someone, because humans naturally want to be together. You don’t need “secret seduction techniques” to meet someone because all humans naturally want to make love. You don’t need “a lot of effort” to find someone because humans naturally belong together. Humans gravitate towards each other. Loneliness means that you are trying very hard to deny the reality of nature and human interaction. You don’t need the belief that “all the good guys are taken” because there are so many out there and they are all interesting human beings. You don’t need to look like a superstar first because you will naturally attract what is best for you. The “law of attraction” means that energy attracts like energy, that what you experience as reality is not a coincidence but happens according to your thoughts and feelings, in a match with the energy that you radiate to the world. All you need to flirt now is how to apply the energy attraction fields correctly. This sounds mystical but it is very practical.
All these men’s books and seminars on “Sex Artists” and “NLP Techniques for Seduction” have no idea what women want. Actually, I have no idea. Women want to be appreciated for who they are. The last thing they want is someone to say memorized phrases. All these books and seminars for women on “Finding a Soulmate” and “Attracting the Right Partner” are often not appropriate for a mother wanting to flirt and have a good time. All this exaggerated expectation about “Soulmates” can block the natural flow of Flirt because you are constantly running into an image in your mind rather than what is happening right in front of you. That is not to say that you do not believe in soul mates. I certainly do, but those all come by themselves, without you having to read about them. Whether you are a man or a woman, this article will help you clear up the popular misconceptions about flirting and help you become a super flirt.
1. Always start everything by loving yourself first
You can only be rejected if you have rejected yourself first. You can only fear rejection if you have first devalued yourself. If you approve, love, appreciate and respect yourself, not only will you radiate differently so others will also appreciate and respect you, but even in cases where you are rejected, it will not matter, because you do not need their attention. Once you enter into communication with others happily without fear of rejection, which means that you are fine whether they “reject” you or not, you are free. You will not be afraid and you will be able to be the natural and funny human being that you were meant to be. To top it off, you can save yourself some time and money on silly seminars on how to find partners or become a flirt. If you are not afraid to go out and talk to people, if you no longer need their attention and approval, you become brave and playful.
2. Flirting is spontaneous
Flirting happens spontaneously outside the current setting. It is not written, prepared, meditated, thought, practiced. Trying to practice it or “learn its rules” can turn it into a lifelong disabled flirt. Trying to apply “techniques”; “flirting” and “following the rules of Flirt” or whatever nonsense is actually the opposite of what Flirt is. The more you think about it, the more you’ve lost Flow. There is nothing to think about. Humans are drawn to nature. They speak. They look at each other. And then they fall in love with each other, or not. If they do not, each one goes his own merry way. If they do, my best wishes to them! When you are spontaneous, your behavior and speech are not preconceived, censored, or considerate. Instead, you are guided by “The Force”, the “Universe” and you say the right things at the right times. And “the right things” cannot be planned. The “right things” come out of the present moment. By being present with the other person, which means that you have your attention with the other person rather than worrying about your thoughts and yourself, you more easily allow spontaneity. If you remember only one thing from this article, let it be the word Spontaneous. Life is a game, a stage, there is nothing to fear. Start talking spontaneously. Approach someone spontaneously. Ask someone out spontaneously. Do something different than expected, spontaneously. The best things in life happen without your planning. “You plan, God laughs.”
In my life I have learned to do many things spontaneously. Whether you’re giving a speech, leading a training with students, or recording audio lessons, it’s all done without preparation. I learned to let myself be guided by more competent forces (The Universe!) Many years ago. All my recordings and meditations that people buy were spoken without a script and without knowing in advance what he was going to say. This article was written spontaneously, without an outline or plan. And that’s why people enjoy and benefit from my books and recordings in different ways than they benefit from other works. My works are not blocked neither in my calculations nor in my strategy nor in worrying about who is going to read them. I speak spontaneously. And the same applies to Flirt. Start searching. Or just start talking. Or just start walking. Or just start smiling. It’s as easy as that, it really is.
4. Four types of energy flow
a) You are not interested, the other is not interested (neutral)
b) You are not interested, the other is interested (push)
c) You are interested, the other is not interested (throw)
d) You are interested, the other is interested (attraction)
Position For it is the easiest for most people because there is hardly any push or pull involved. For the most part, you are disinterested to the point where you don’t even notice these people when you go out. Insecure people sometimes strike up conversations with them because it is so easy, at the same time that they wish they could talk to their “target.” Sometimes, because there is no desire or resistance involved, they don’t want anything from you, you don’t want anything from them, conversations can get quite fun and good.
Position B not as painful as position c. Most are flattered by it. They enjoy getting the attention of others and rejecting it. If the other one becomes too “sticky”, it can become unsightly. In some cases, if you reduce your own resistance and prejudice, the aversion or disgust can turn into attraction. It is not an impossibility.
Position vs It’s the one most people fear, the one that can be “painful.” However, if you have practiced loving yourself, it will be less painful and instead will be a simple fact of life. By not making it painful at all, sometimes you can even reverse the energy so that the other person develops a real interest in you. It is not an impossibility.
Position D it is the ideal state, mutual attraction, mutual appreciation. Being able to recognize the people you meet in this position, by nature, is part of the Art of Flirting. Can you walk into a crowded room and immediately distinguish who might be a “class c” person and who might not? Can I. It is known from the first time you see someone. This information is not processed by the normal intellect, it is “received in an instant” by your sense of energy, by your body. One intuitively reads both the invisible energy field and the physical expression of that energy field (a person’s gaze) to know if there is a match or not. People who have been indoctrinated by advertising about who and what is supposedly “attractive” can sometimes have their perception hampered. Someone who “looks hot” is not necessarily an energetic partner. It can be, but it doesn’t have to be. Follow what your mind thinks is good for you, follow what you really feel. Whether you are looking for romance or sex, you will have a much better time if you follow your heart. Better.
5. Having energy is attractive
How attractive you are has nothing to do with being a “Flirting Artist”. It has something to do with your appearance, your health, the state of your body. Some protest and say “Yes, but aren’t internal values most important?” People who are insecure about their appearance often ask these questions. The outer appearance is a reflection of your inner state. That means I can tell just by looking at you what your true inner state is. Inner values are important, but they also create your outer appearance. I can read your character and the type of life you have led, in your face. So the outward appearance is important. That doesn’t mean you should force yourself to look like Glamor magazines prescribe you to look. This means that you should take care of your appearance so that it is reasonably pleasant to see and be with you. How something thinks it can attract someone who looks clean while he looks unclean is beyond my comprehension. You have to you represent yourself What are you looking for. You never get what you “want” in life, you get what you are.
The most important thing is happiness. If you are full of energy, whether you show it or not, it is contagious. People are naturally attracted to you. People like to gather around the heat. Radiate warmth instead of looking for it. Radiate love instead of looking for it. Give attention instead of looking for it. It gives interest instead of looking for it. Every time you fall into the trap of looking for something or expecting something or wanting something from the other, stop right there and let go. Go on to give that instead of wanting it.
If you want support in releasing fears while creatively visualizing flirting success, I highly recommend my “Reality Creation for Flirt” audio recording. If you liked this article, please give it to someone who can put it to good use.
